Seems like there are so many love lorn souls out there...so many of them like myself have been plagued by the trials and tribulations of love, a simple yet complex and profound term that seems to bring misery and joy to all that seek it...hmmm so many people around me have I witnessed those tragedies unfold one after another that make me ponder that is it in our lives that when God created us, he included in each and everyone of us a strong and powerful element that brings forth both misery and pain and fusing joy and sweetness...a force so powerful that many who seek it were tormented for their failure to conquer it...and how it bring strangers together and it tear lovers apart...so warm yet so cold...so here it is an entry to console all those who seek love and have suffered it's warth terribly and also for those who conquered and triumph that live to tale the tale... There are far too many definition of LOVE but to put it simply according to Oxford's dictionary - "A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness. ". So there you have it, the official meaning of love...but the explanation is simple and easily comprehended...but how many of us really understood the true, genuine meaning beneath those shallow words?...I believe many of us have our own definition of love according to our experiences so I suppose everyone of us somehow or another who have been in love or had been love is bound to have a deeper understanding of what exactly love is and those who have not...will just have to stick to the explanation from the dictionary or from their friends who have actually seek it... To truly understand what love is and to put it in mere mortal words seems like quite an impossible task or rather what we have is more like a general or approximation of what exactly it is...well that's the truth I guess...it is just more than one can ever imagine what exaactly is LOVE? The origin of all sweetness and also the root of all tragedies...well the LOVE I am refering here is not to be confused with love for money, cars, etc...it is the LOVE for someone you like...sort of like a girfriend or boyfriend thing or simply someone that you wanna spend the rest of your life with...well I guess you sort of get the picture rite? So I guees I'll just continue...like one of my good friend used to say when you don't start, you'll never have to end and the beginning is always nice and sweet but the ending is always bitter and woeful...and I suppose she's pretty much correct. How many of us is actually able to walk away suavely after a breakup and pretend that it never existed in the first place? I mean from the breakup of your first love? Your first TRUE love?...*sigh* maybe there are but the numbers are so small I can hardly recall anyone around me but maybe, just maybe someone out there...and that there are 3 person that each and everyone of us is fated to meet in our life time...the 1st being ourselves which at times, we still couldn't even understand...and the second being the person you love most and the 3rd being the person who love you most...and in almost most cases, the person that you love most will never be the person who love you most...eventhough there are times when they are actually the same person...it's really rare and usually I think it's really like a miracle when that happens…then again I must say it hardly ever happens…at least not to anyone around me that I know…Well as you'd probably have guess it, the person you love most will be the same person that hurt you most and the one that love you most? You've guessed it...the one you'll hurt most and in most cases, one is bound to meet the 2nd person first and then the 3rd person...well there may be a reverse between the 2nd and the 3rd person in terms of who will one meet first...but take the scenario of meeting the 2nd person first( yeah, the one that you loved most…) after that you've given out so much only to have him / her leaving you at the very end...naturally you'll feel hurt and all the other break-up related symtoms...but usually if that's the one that you swear to God that you love the most...the aftermath will leave you living a life of a totally different person altogether...you'll sort of hate that person initially after the break-up eventhough you wanted so badly that he / she will return to your side...
So the 1st stage after the breakup, you feel so hurt and your heart is bleeding like crazy, you can’t sleep, etc…...then comes stage 2nd where you feel numb...like losing all your interest in the opposite sex and all the things that you used to like...it's like a living zombie feeling...you do the same old routine each day without any goals, feelings and emotions, simply just living life aimlessly and at times, you ponder to yourselves why are you alive...then the last stage...the recovery stage when all the feelings of hurt returns and you regain sanity but the hurt is not as great as compared to the 1 st stage and so slowly you recover…That’s sort of what happens when the one you loved most leave you…after the recovery stage you’ll sort of feel like a different person altogether…like your mentality mature and you sort of have like a immunized feeling towards another relationship…so maybe after sometime later, you step into a relationship but I’m pretty much sure you’d put in all 100% at once because the scars left you battered but also smarter…tread lightly and see how much your other half outs in…some people will put in as much as how much their other half puts in but others will simply put in the slightest to keep the relationship alive…like the saying goes, once bitten, twice shy…
And then comes the one who loves you most…he / she would probably be like a reflection of you when you gave your everything for your previous EXs or to the one that you really loved. But somehow you’ve been hurt and you would not give in you 100% anymore and so you’ll tend to hurt he / she…
Well the conclusion I can draw from here is that you can only shed tears once for the one that you loved most…all relationship after that, you simply won’t be the one who will shed tears in a break-up…that’s life I guessed…but then again there are people who choose to be stupid eventhough they weren’t born stupid…they’ve been hurt and each time they put in 100% in all their relationships hoping that their other half will appreciate it…*sigh* I can only condemn these silly dick heads and laugh at their lame plight each time they suffered a break-up because they are beyond redemption…I’ll only help those who choose to help themselves and those who are born stupid…those who choose to be stupid?…let’s just say we let them be tormented and burn…so we have less irritating dick heads whining around us…
So I am quite inquisitive about the love life of others but please do not confuse it with sex lives ok…as for the later I’m simply not interested for I believe that sex is a participative sports and not a spectators’ sport…I only like to hear all sort of problems and affairs of the heart…meaning relationship problems…my email is there on the left panel…you know what to do if you have a relationship problem rite? Haha I’m more than willing to lend a listening ear…no it’s not that I am doctor or something like that but let’s just say I’ve been thru too much and have seen too much to be able to give the right advice…I believe that there are still so much I can share here but it’d definitely be too lengthy and it’d be too boring to read on…so for the sake of other fellow readers, I shall end here…
"A pair of star crossed lovers."
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